You know, those ingrained habits we all have? Those ones we don’t see
until suddenly someone else is there and, somehow, someway, revealing
all these things you were unaware of about yourself?
Like, how you fold your laundry. Or that you actually, like, had
deeply rooted feelings related to how the laundry is folded. I mean,
c’mon, really? Who cares? Well, apparently you did. Hah! Joke’s on you.
Thirds or quarters? Length-wise or width-wise. Put in the cabinet facing backwards or forwards? Fold out or in?
But the biggest question is: Does it really, freaking, matter? Well… No. But then again, kinda yes.
No, it doesn’t matter, ultimately. There is no right or wrong way to
fold laundry. There are “more effective” ways, and “less wrinkling”
ways, and “space saving” ways… but there is no law or rulebook on how
laundry MUST be folded. Just as there is no law or rulebook on how you
should wash laundry, or how your should take a shower (with or without
water spraying against the wall or straight down or whatever), or how
you should cut vegetables up, or when you should take the garbage out,
or what categories your should organize your bookshelf into, or how to
squeeze that infamous toothpaste tube. But sometimes… it certainly feels
like there should have been a rulebook… Am I right?
Now, I had always considered myself quite flexible. I mean,
seriously… I have moved over a dozen times in the last 8 years, living
in multiple countries (sometimes at the same time), learning bits and
pieces of multiple spoken languages, not to mention countless sign
languages. Crossing cultures and adapting… All the time. I’ve had more
roommates in the last decade of my life than I can count (no, really…
more than I can count). So… I figured, yeah… I’m set. This whole
adapting thing will be no sweat. WRONG.
My last roommate before marriage was the best and worst thing for me.
Our relationship and living together was effortless. Like, we never,
ever had to think or talk about it. It just meshed, and flowed, and
sailed along with all the ease of a tailwind. A blessing, because she
came a crucial, stressful and overwhelming season of my life and job and
just picked up all the pieces and wove them into something organized,
manageable, and shared. And, though we’ve traveled the world
together, shared hotel rooms, shared clothes and food, and shared some
crazy experiences… honestly, I have no idea how she folded the laundry.
Whether she kept all her preferences in check (I doubt this, highly –
nobody can do that for 2 years living with outspoken me) or we just
complimented each other that well… it did not prepare me for switching
to a lifemate, who isn’t even going to try to hide preferences… because
this is supposed to be about middle ground and compromises and blended lives.
So back to the laundry… in this and many other things, I’m learning to let go of how I think it should be done, and just rejoice that I have a Love and Life-mate who wants and enjoys
doing things like helping fold laundry, wash dishes, clean the house,
cook meals, etc. I am so thankful. And yes, in some ways, it does kinda
matter how you fold those towels, pillow cases, and blankets.
Before, when they were thrown in the box on top of my closet, you had to
fold them to fit into the box. But now that they go in that new
cabinet, the old way of folding them no longer works – cause they stick
out and prevent the doors from closing. So, even this girl with all her
particularities, it learning how to re-train and re-fold. And, get this,
all our randomly sized and shaped towels and blankets all have to be
folded differently depending on their shape/size because they won’t fit
into the cabinet any other way. Bahahahaha… don’t tell me God doesn’t
have a sense of humor. Or that He doesn’t have a vested interest in
continually pushing me beyond my own personal boundaries. Smile. Cause
He does.
In conclusion: I love the lessons and stretching of married life. I
love my husband. I love this new journey we are on together. And yes, I
will give up my unspoken rulebook all over again and again, for this
beautiful adventure of compromise and blending lives.
05 April 2015
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